The Post About R Kelly

Recently, Buzzfeed news reported that R Kelly is holding 6 women in his home in a cult fashion. This news story broke when the families of the women came forward with the story. I honestly hate these news when women are being abused. R Kelly is not new to having sex scandals surrounding him. In 1994, he married Aliyah when she was 14 and he was 25. Aliyah lied on the marriage certificate and said she was 18. When the marriage was annulled, Aliyah said that “she was never the same” after the “relationship”. In 1996, Tiffany Hawkins and R Kelly got in a “relationship”. Tiffany was 15 and R Kelly was 27.

Now I am going to stop right here because if I keep going, I am going to be pissed off. R Kelly is a disgusting person who is obsessed with young women. He is an older man with more money and plenty of experience of manipulating younger women to do what he wants. He has also been charged with 21 counts of child pornography in Chicago and 12 counts in Florida. This man has allegedly had sex with children multiple times!! And people are still defending him!! When we fail to put people like R Kelly behind bars, we fail women. And more importantly, we fail black women. 60% of black women have been sexually harassed in their life. Black women will come forward with stories of men sexually abusing them and you will not believe them. Then they will be hurt and broken in their life and ya’ll wonder why there are so many broken black women in the world. This man have abused soooo many children!!! He abused minors, guys!! He needs to be in jail.

When we do not punish men who mistreat women, we are failing women. We need to be here to listen and support women when they speak up about sexual abuse. Bill Cosby was found not guilty and now the reruns have been ordered back again. There go all of our morals. That is a direct slap in the face to women who have been assaulted. They feel discouraged from coming forward because they see in real life how constantly sexual assaulters get away with this crime. This happens all of the time and I wish this would stop. R Kelly is an awful person who is not aware that what he is doing is messed up and wrong. Too many times we blame women for these things and the men just get away and keep doing it to other women. And the other women who are abused may not come forward and will stay silent. This is a depressing cycle that is persistent in today’s society. I really pray to God that R Kelly is arrested and that evidence comes forward for him to go to jail and not bail himself out before a trial. And yes, I know that one of the alleged captives have been making all of these Marina Joyce type videos. But these are obviously staged to look like she isn’t being held captive. These videos are lies and we need to wake up. I cannot wait for the day R Kelly goes to jail for a very very long time.

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The Post About Kodak Black

I really did not want to write this post, but the time has come. Kodak Black recently said that he doesn't find Black women attractive. 
So once again, there is a black man who would rather date a white or Latino woman rather than a black woman. 
If you do not know who Kodak Black is, consider yourself lucky. Kodak Black is a Florida rapper with a long rap sheet of legal troubles. The one case of his that has shaken me to my core was the one that revealed details of him being accused of sexual battery. Apparently, at the end of one of his performances in Florida, he brought a female fan to his hotel room and repeatedly bit her, tore off her clothes, and raped her as she screamed for help.

So Here's What I Think: I was never a fan of Kodak Black. I had listened to a few of his songs and wasn't that impressed. But after reading about this after it happened, I didn't particularly find it difficult to stop listening to him. Kodak Black is the type of rapper that Hip Hop will not abandon. He has that angry sound that is the kind of staple to rap music. However, his violent past, sexual assault allegations, and constant legal trouble will not be enough to kick him out of the rap scene. And now that he is saying that he doesn't find black women attractive, which is another thing that black men love to constantly repeat. I cannot tell you why black men say they hate black women when their mothers are black women. 
Constantly giving sexual abusers opprotunities to perform in front of huge crowds is another way society silences sexual assault victims. Someone can come forward and name their rapist, but nothing happens to the rapist. You will hear people calling sexual assault allegations "career ending statements", however, Chris Brown is still selling out stadiums, Bill Cosby got off with a mistrial, and now Kodak Black is not in jail like he should be. He also represents the types of black men who will be as pro-black as black women are, but will speak hate to that same black woman. I personally don't know how Kodak Black has the confidence to say these things about black women when he literally looks like a dusty dirty old toiletbrush. 
Black men will always try to tell black women how they should act, wear their hair, how long their skirts should be, and what they should be do regarding their future. These misogynistic ideals that men hold onto so tightly are not helpful for the community. Black women are not made to praise and please black men. If you want to date only white and latino women, then do that. But it is completely unnecessary to disparage black women's appearances that the same white women you are dating are paying money to acheive. If you want to hate black women and not date them, do that. But you better keep your mouth shut when black women decide to date outside of their race. Because at least we know how do that without saying hateful things about black men that we learned from the Eurocentric dialouge we have been fed since we were young.